Birgit Ehrenberg is a philosopher and literary scholar who writes about love in history and the present. We want to know from the experts, what changed between yesterday and today?
Eric Hegmann: Ehrenberg, you have been dealing with love for years and know exactly the problems faced by couples today. What else could surprise you?
Birgit Ehrenberg: Precisely because I have long been dealing with love, I am very surprised and happy to meet a couple or a couple who are very curious about what love really is. Hardly anyone is really interested in love, mostly just interested in the idea of their own love, it is a fundamental and consequential difference. The search for love usually occurs according to Scheme F: Everyone brings a widespread or constructive idea of love about love and wants to be fully aware of it. Then this man finally meets the other - a fitting fit - man. She also has the idea of love in her head, almost certainly the other. Instead of coming closer, the two love each other almost closely. Example: ER does not like to say "I love you", he does not like it, it is too ordinary. He did not say it when he had a deep feeling. He believes: who loves, he says it. And that's when the drama starts. The trick: You must enter the path of love - beyond the powerful throbbing ego. I always recommend: Be smart about love, look beyond your own nose. Read "Art of Loving" by Erich Fromm, then you know all about love. Knowledge of love makes you happy.
How has the question changed in recent years?
People become more insecure, which is right or wrong. Let's imagine, its meaning is increasingly questionable. In the past, cheating was the worst thing that happened in a relationship, so there was no discussion. Today I am often asked with great challenge - by men and women - whether it is impossible to want and love two or more people, and how it fits into the relationships that exist, both morally and practically.
In the revolutionary sixties and seventies, many were concerned that youth would lose their values. What values and beliefs do you see today are widespread?
The central value in society is family. He is at the top. Nowadays, most people know very early, often before the age of majority, that they want family, marriage, children, home and agriculture, the whole program. No one thinks this is stuffy, as is the case in the 70s. Because the family is understood as a bad bourgeois tie to be blown up. Today women and men understand love as the meaning of life, marriage and family as a manifestation of that love.
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